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behavioral problems in children of divorced parents

Although the main behavioral problems revolve around the hostility, anxiety and despair, there are some other behavior problems, you should keep an eye on the children of divorced parents. Some children suffer from sleep problems during or after divorce proceedings, including difficulty falling asleep, difficulty staying asleep, and poor quality of sleep in general. Children may also have difficulty concentrating in school and their grades may suffer accordingly. Older children may seek drugs or alcohol, or even try to join a gang in order to cope with moving feelings.

A behavioral problems that can be generated when parents divorce is hostility. Hostility is a generic term for a variety of hostile emotions including anger, anger and resentment. While there may be a multitude of reasons why some children become hostile after their parents' divorce - as Melinda Smith, MA, Jocelyn Block, MA, Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. And Gina Kemp, MA - this feeling arises primarily because they feel as if you remove their sense of peace and normalcy. Hostility may also occur because the child feels that the parent who leaves and is no longer around abandoned.

A child's separation from parents can be a devastating and saddening loss in the eyes of a child. But sometimes sad feelings are perfectly normal and healthy for the situation will persist for an unhealthy amount of time. These lower feelings --- that fall under the generic term of desperation --- could also turn into even lower emotions such as depression and apathy. Children who are chronically sad feelings and experience of depression and apathy tend to withdraw from the world and others and may even adopt dangerous habits such as self-harm; they also might consider suicide.

Divorce is a set-up for disciplinary problems to the surface. When parents divorce, children often blame themselves or become angry with their mother and father. They often show a complete turnaround in behavior and personality follows the upheaval of the family. These behavioral problems come at a time when parents are busy putting their own lives back together, so they are less able to cope with the child's problems. Although the behavior may actually improves a child after a divorce (especially in violent homes ), usually it deteriorates.

Often as a result of a divorce that happens is that the custodial parent considers it necessary to launch a tight ship, a home organized and consistent with increased responsibilities, predictable discipline, while the non-custodial parent becomes " Disneyland dad, " all fun and games and no structure or rules. The custodial parent is the difficult question; the non-custodial parent of a fun. Since parenting is so deeply personal, rooted in the unconscious, there is no way divorced parents ( not to mention the in-laws ) will be able to discipline the same. Realizing this front can save parents to be constantly angry against the other. Do not worry that the differences between the two houses will be confusing for your child. Children are very good at gauging people, especially parents, and they will know what set of circumstances makes them feel safer. Your child will be able to make the adjustment to leave home and come back again because children are so adaptable. This does not mean that there will be no worries, but as long as at least one of the parents ( probably the one reading this information ) has a handle on discipline, the child will feel grounded. The child will have the same attitude towards the divorce situation as he sees his parents.

As suggested above, perhaps the most important element that prevents a successful outcome is the complexity of the changes that accompany divorce. Children who have divorce adjustment problems often face several changes in the functioning of the family. It is likely that the child's adaptation will not be better than the residential parent because of the emotional dependency of the child on the parent. Questions that depend on the adaptation of the parent company include (1 ) the level of acrimony between the parents, which can affect both the relationship of the residential and non-residential parents with the child; and (2) the ability of the residential parent to be involved with the child and consistent in administering discipline. A second group of question appears only at most partially mediated by adjusting the mother. These include (1) the adjustment of children to new schools, new peers and new neighborhoods often resulting from the loss of family income; (2) temporal influences discussed above including the child's development status and time since the divorce took place; and (3) that remarriage is to adapt to a new parent and often new siblings. Handling any of these questions can be difficult for a child, but dealing with several of them at once is often typical. Thus, effective treatment is to fight successfully against several fronts. Similarly, relapse is often a function of change in one or two areas that were previously calm. For example, divorced fathers usually remarry more quickly than divorced mothers. In a divorced family whose biological father has had regular contact with the children of the first marriage, this may change when he married and started having children in her second family. A child who has used her biological father before her remarriage can show adjustment problems that visits by the father drops 2-3 years after the divorce. More typical is the chaos that follows to adjust to the initial separation of the biological...

Wolchik and colleagues ( 1993) evaluated an intervention based on the parents that was designed to affect five factors that can affect children's adjustment to divorce : the quality of the care parent-child relationship, adverse events related to the divorce, including parental conflict, contact with the noncustodial parent, support for non-adult - Parenting for parents and children, discipline practices. Seventy parents recently divorced residential children were randomly placed in either the treatment or control group waiting list. Treatment effects for measures of child adjustment results were mixed. The treated group reported lower ratings of aggression than the control group of 10 to 12 weeks after treatment. The two groups did not differ with notes of anxiety or conduct disorder. However, there was a significant interaction between the intervention and pre-test behavioral problems on the problems of post-processing behavior with children with poorer initial operation demonstrating the most positive effects. Results mainly included pre and post differences - treatment on two factors: the quality of the parent- child relationship and custody negative divorce -related events.

Another key issue is the relationship between children's adjustment and regular contact with the non-residential parent. Research does not indicate that the regular contact with the non-residential parent is necessarily positive. In (1994 ) review of Amato and Rezac literature, they found 18 studies that suggested welfare of children was positively related to the frequency of contact with the non-residential parent. In contrast, nine studies found no relationship, and six studies found frequency of contact to be associated with an increase in the child's problems. Results using nationally representative NSC database are typical of the latter. Furstenberg and Allison (1989 ) found few significant relationships between the frequency of children's contacts and adaptation covering a wide range of fields. It is likely that the results are mixed, as the frequency of contacts does not provide a complete picture of non-residential parent-child relationship. Frequency of contact and child adjustment are probably through other factors, including the quality of both the father-child and father-mother interaction. In a study that simultaneously examined the relationship between the non-residential parent contact, parental conflict and child adjustment, an interactive relationship was found ( Amato and Rezac, 1994). Contact with the residential parent was associated most strongly in children's adjustment problems in families where parental conflict was high. However, children who have regular contact with the non-residential parent whose parents were low on parental conflict showed the lowest rates of behavior problems. This study is noteworthy because the sample included more than 12,000 children, including an oversampling of minorities and different types of single-parent families.

First, due to the increased complexity of remarriage, she faces methodological problems more than the research on adaptation to divorce children. Preliminary data indicate that the fit may vary according to gender and child's age at which took place remarriage. For example, preschool boys seem to have advantages remarriage ( Hetherington, Cox and Cox, 1985; Zill et al. 1993), while boys age teenagers seem to respond less favorably ( Hetherington et al., 1992). Girls generally have been found to show an increase in adjustment problems ( Clingempeel, Brand, and Ievoli, 1984; Santrock, Warshak, Lindbergh, and Meadows, 1982), but both boys and girls come out equally difficult to adjust to remarriage when they occur during adolescence. Some of these gender differences can be attributed to children's relationships with the custodial parent. Like most children live with their mother after the divorce, this transition usually involves the addition of a stepfather. For boys, the addition of a same-sex parent during infancy can be used to cushion the strained mother-son relationship that usually follows a divorce to a period of time in which children may show greater openness to the inclusion of a new parent ( Hetherington et al., 1985). During adolescence, boys may be less willing to accept a new father figure in their lives. For girls, who tend to be closer to mothers after divorce, the father-in can be regarded as an intruder (Peterson and Zill, 1986), especially during adolescence, a period already marked by social and physical challenges ( ie, puberty ).


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